Since Darcy was born I've been surprised by the amount of comments about his birth order in our family. Yes, he is our 4th child but NO this doesn't make him or his birth any less important than our 1st.
I guess it all started with the fact that B wasn't able to be there for his birth. I was met with comments about me being an old hand at this birth thing so I didn't need him anyway... This is so not true. I do wish he would have been there for the birth of his 4th child. It was just as special as the birth of his 1st.
And well the comments have kept coming, and not just the comments really. But the lack of acknowledgement from family and friends too. I guess that might come down the digital age that we live in now and well, Facebook too. Yes they may have liked a picture or typed the words congratulations on a Facebook post , but there were markedly less phone calls and text messages than when the other three kids entered the world.
There were only a handful of cards received in the mail too. And that makes me sad. I've kept the cards from when the older three were born and can notice the gradual decline as our family grew. But little Darcy received a grand total of FOUR cards. FOUR.
I just wish he was welcomed a little more into this world by our extended family and friends. Don't get me wrong, some of our family and friends did acknowledge his birth more than enough. It's just the ones that didn't haven't gone unnoticed.
Did you notice that as your family grew the excitement and well wishes decreased?
*Please note that I realise that these comments are made with the best intentions, but sometimes they just hurt.