Thursday, September 15, 2011

R U OK? I'm not...

 Today is national R U OK? day. What is R U OK day?, well the website says this:

Thursday 15 September, 2011 is R U OK?Day. It’s a national day of action which aims to prevent suicide by encouraging Australians to connect with someone they care about and help stop little problems turning into big ones.
On that day we want everyone across the country, from all backgrounds and walks of life, to ask family, friends and colleagues: "Are you OK?".
Staying connected with others is crucial to our general health and wellbeing. Feeling isolated or hopeless can contribute to depression and other mental illnesses, which can ultimately result in suicide. Regular, meaningful conversations can protect those we know and love.
It's so simple. In the time it takes to have a coffee, you can start a conversation that could change a life.

Whilst I like the ideas behind R U Ok? day and I like the fact that it's exposure has got everyone talking about mental health and suicide, I am not really sure if I like it...  I wasn't going to post anything about it at all to tell you the truth. I wasn't sure (and I'm still not sure) how I feel about it or if what I say will be misconstrued. But I can honestly tell you that there are only two people in this whole world that I would tell the absolute truth to if I was asked this question, well maybe not two, but B would get the whole truth and one other would get most of the truth. But I hardly see her face to face, so it would be a rare occurrence.

Really in how many instances have you felt like absolute shite and someone has asked how you are and you flippantly replied, good thanks and you?

What do you think of R U OK day? Have you asked anyone if they R OK today? What did they say?

I guess I will leave it at that. I spilt coffee on my keyboard this morning and my keys are sticking so it is a real pain to type any more than this...


  1. I can understand why you feel this. I too put up a front and wouldn't have dared admit that I wasn't ok to most people. Even my own family.

    I guess the most powerful effect of this campaign, in my opinion, is the sharing of stories and the breaking down of stigma around not being ok. If someone realises that they can safely say, I'm not ok without being judged, then I think it is worthwhile.

  2. You do raise a valid point - there arent too many people I'd give the whole truth and nothing but the truth either x

  3. What you say is definitely true.

    But sometimes I find it easier to spill my guts to someone who is so far removed from the situation they can probably see it from a fresh perspective.

    And even if no-one asks you if you are okay, you can ask yourself, and be brutally honest with yourself. I think that's important too.

    Love & stuff
    Mrs M

  4. I fully get what you mean. However, I find that if you ask 'are you really ok?' people seem to stop and think. It's happened when I've asked many times.

    Unfortunately, it's sometimes too easy to fake it and say what people want to hear.

  5. I take your point. When you're already feeling vulnerable, it's hard to deliberately open up about it to people, even those closest sometimes. But I agree with Lane; if campaigns like this help raise some awareness, develop understanding and break down stigma, then I think they are still worthwhile. Asking the question also means we have to personally consider the answer, even if we don't really want to go there, at least not yet. I hope you'll find what you need to be okay soon.


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